My sister Mary Rose recommended “The Women” and commented,”When I chat with women who have read it, they’ve each mentioned something different that struck them deeply — none of which was the thing that struck me. Veddy interesting. Rye was the horrid bad guy in the whole story, in my opinion.
“You could be a hero,” he says to an impressionable young Frankie. Grrr. Those stupid words provoked her bravado so that she could impress her dad and have a place on his office wall.
Well, that certainly backfired.”
I agree that Rye, the lying cheat, was the horrid bad guy in the story. And the book blames Rye for Frankie’s decision to try to be a hero and get on her father’s “Wall of Honor.” I think it is interesting that the writer chose to make the father Irish-born, and wrote the mother as someone struggling with alcohol for years.
I read many first-person nurse stories when I was preparing my China Beach spec script. This book was written by a younger woman who created a composite Frankie. From my point-of-view, Frankie was already a “hero child” growing up with an incapacitated mother whom she would rescue, and an emotionally-distant father who harbored contempt for females. Frankie’s love of feeling “competent and needed” prompted her decision to re-up as her first tour was coming to an end. She had finally started to feel skillful and valued.
Part of PTSD is the loss of ability to feel connected to people who love you, well-described in Frankie’s relationship with Dr. Acevedo when she returned to Coronado. Dr. Acevedo did not need her. Rye “needed” her. That was the hook he had, that kept her coming back even when it was contrary to her values. That was the slippery slope that sent her into self-destructive addiction. Giving up herself, in order to feel needed.
The writer had to paint some reason for Frankie to want to be a hero so she pinned it on Rye, the lying cheat. But in real life, there are children who learn to survive by becoming the hero in the family. The kid who does the work that the impaired parents can’t do, the kid who gets attention only for what she does. No love for simply being a kid. To be valued, she has to turn into a little adult. A “parentalized child.” A hero, who is safe only when she is competent and needed.
